Thursday, February 14, 2019

The Good Stuff

Happy Valentine's Day or Happy Totally Made Up and Ridiculous Holiday Day - whichever camp you're in. 

I don't have strong feelings either way about Valentine's Day.  In the past (when my BFF owned a flower shop) I've received gorgeous flowers.  I've also received thoughtful cards.  I don't think there's been one when Ryan totally blew it.  I'm pretty sure Brighton jewelry has been a big player on several occasions.

I love it when Ryan buys me cards because he has this funny habit of marking out some of the words and personalizing the card.  As a word girl, that always makes me happy.

What really makes me happy is that Ryan goes out of his way to show me he loves me the other 364 days of the year.  He runs my errands - even when that errand involves dropping off things to be monogrammed.  He makes sure the dishes are done when I come home from being out of town.  He never fusses when I ask to go to bed early.  Meeting me in the driveway to help me bring in the groceries. 

That's the stuff.  Personalized cards.  Errands.  Acts of service.  That's the good stuff. 


Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Systems vs Goals

I'm reading an AWESOME book by James Clear called Atomic Habits.  I heard about it from a teacher I follow named Colby Sharp.  Colby organized a teacher book club to read it and I am blown away.  I'm not even halfway through the book but it is flagged and highlighted within an inch of it's life.

Atomic Habits are the small things that you do every day that add up to have a big impact in your life.  In the first chapter Mr. Clear writes about focusing on creating systems instead of setting goals.  "Goals are about the results you want to achieve.  Systems are about the processes that lead to those results." He goes on to describe 4 problems with setting goals.  The first problem blew my mind.



Wow! Why had I not thought of this before?  Both teams want to win the game but one of them has done more to reach that goal.  They've implemented systems to insure they are successful. 

Do like to have goals but I've realized I'm actually a systems girl.  I like to make a plan.  I love my paper planner.  Each week I try to plan out as much of my life as I can. I write down what days I'm going to work out, what days I'm going to write and all the boys' activities. 

And I love to track my progress.

I also try to help the boys implement systems to help them meet their goals.  In the Fall, Zac was struggling with an assignment in English.  He has to say a certain number of vocabulary words each grading period.  The first grading period he forgot.  The second grading period we made a plan - a system.  And that's made all the difference. 

I believe that one of our responsibilities as parents - to help our kids meet their goals.  To help them set up systems to achieve their goals.  I just hadn't been calling it a system, I'd been calling it plan. 

Tuesday, February 12, 2019

Negotiations

In case you're living under a rock, this Thursday is Valentine's Day.  B's class is having a card exchange and party.  This required a bit of negotiation Sunday night.

B loves to make deals so I approached the party stuff in a business like manner. I took the notices from school to his room and had a seat across the table from him.

First we discussed the box decorating.  They are going to decorate their boxes at school Thursday so we had to decide what supplies he wanted to take.  B had already decided he needed construction paper and tape.  I asked if he needed anything else "Nope, I got this." I told him to let me know if he thought of anything else.

Next is the biggie - the cards.  B does not like to write.  It's  actually physically painful for him.  I showed him the class list.

"OK, here's the list for the cards." I told him.

"Do I have to write their last names?"

"Nope, I think first names will be good.  How about your name? Are you going to write your name on the cards."

"Yes.  You can put the cards together."

"I can do that. How many nights do you think you need?"

"Ummm, 3 nights"

Monday night comes and it's time to re-open negotiations. 

"Remember, you need to do some of your valentine cards tonight.  Actually, I need you to do half of them tonight.  Tomorrow night we'll be a basketball for a while. You can do the rest of the cards Wednesday night.  How about that?"

"I wish they came assembled."

"I'll put them together, you write on them."

"I'll write their names. You write my name."

I anticipated this.  I didn't figure he'd write both his classmate's and his name on the cards.  I agreed to write his name on the cards. 

"What time do you want to work on the cards?"

"7:20"

Oddly specific but I'll take it. 


Thursday, February 7, 2019

Stay Well

There's a saying in Texas "If you don't like the weather just wait, it'll change".  I'm not going to get all global warming on you but it seems like the weather fluctuates a lot lately.  This past Monday it was almost 80.  Friday it's supposed to be 45 and rainy.  Which, of course, means everyone's going to be sick.  I should probably buy stock in allergy and sinus meds. 

It's hard to know when to go to the doctor during all this.  Especially when there's no fever.  Over the past several weeks, I developed a dry hacking cough.  I figured it was the weather and dry throat. I didn't feel sick.  Until last Thursday. My head started hurting and my throat hurt. I went home and went to bed. Ryan took me to the doctor on Friday.  Still no fever but I had bronchitis.  Steroids, antibiotic, cough meds, and inhalers.  Back to bed.

I stayed in bed most of Saturday.  I missed my niece's gender reveal party but thanks to FaceTime, I was able to see it. I was determined to be up and around Sunday.  I wanted to serve at church and go see The Book of Mormon with momma.  I really think it was the steroids that knocked it out. I felt so good Sunday.  It made me think about how long it had been since I'd felt that good. 

It had been a while.  Ryan and I started back on our eating plan and I had started PIYO again the second week in January.  I remember asking friends "when do I start feeling good because I'm exercising and eating well. I'm just as tired as ever."  I guess my cough was a bigger thing than I'd thought. 

After work Monday, I got back in bed. I was tired from work but I still felt good.  I decided to not work out this week to give my body a break. The steroids make me really hungry so I'm giving myself a break on my eating plan. 

It's hard for mom to be sick, you have to make a plan to take care of everyone.  It's also hard for teachers to be sick, you have to make a plan for you students. Sometimes it's easier to just slog through.  It's hard to say "stop, I have to get better". Thankfully, I have Ryan and my momma pushing me to rest and go to the doctor.  I hope you have someone like that in your life who will look out for you when you're not really looking out for yourself. 

Take a break, Momma.  Stay well.