Thursday, March 23, 2017

Don't Wanna

It's that time of year.  Spring.  The days are longer.  It's nice outside.  And, for us, life is super busy.  Church, school, track, baseball, soccer, therapy, the list goes on and on.  So much to do!  What to do you do when you just don't wanna do something?

To start with you have to figure out how important is the thing that you don't want to do is.  Going to work is pretty essential to feeding our family.  Church is similarly important.  But some things are not required.  People will keep asking you to do things until you say no.  You have to figure out what are the most important things to you and your family and stick to those.

Suck It Up
Let's just be honest, sometimes you have to do something you don't want to do.  It's part of being a grown up.  It stinks.  Why were we so anxious to grown up anyway?  Being a grown up means you have to pay your bills, take care of yourself and do things you don't want to do.

Fake It Till Ya Make It
Sometimes you don't want to do something but you know you need to do it so you drag yourself there.  I find that I don't have my best attitude in those situations.  But I don't want to go around grumpy so, sometimes, I fake it till I make it.  I put on a happy face and act super glad to be where every I am.  Most times when I get there, I'm glad I'm there and I become genuinely happy.

Don't Do It
Sometimes you just have to skip something.  You have my permission.  I accept your permission.  For your own mental health, you just say "I can't make it." and you stay home.  The key to properly skipping something is to not fill in that time with something else.  You aren't deciding what's more important, activity A or activity B, here.  That's prioritizing.  This is saying "Today we are supposed to do activity A but my wagon is dragging and the boys look like zombies.  We're staying home."

If you find that your skipping, or wanting to skip, a certain activity a lot, it's time to rethink that activity.  Why are you doing it?  Go back to prioritizing.  Is it really important in the first place?  What is it about the activity that's making you not want to go?  Is it at a bad time? Can that time be changed?  Are you, or your kids, really not interested in it in the first place? Can you bow out gracefully?  Make some decisions to protect what you want and need.  Make some decisions to protect your kids' time.

If you are feeling like you don't wanna do anything, that could be a sign of depression. If the feeling persists, please seek Godly counsel. Talk to your doctor. Get help if things are consistently overwhelming. Take care of yourself. We need you!!

I hope this helps.  What do you want to do when you just plain don't wanna?  Share in the comments.
And remember, Spring always turns to Summer. Hopefully, life slows down for you in the Summer.   I get the most rest in the Summer.

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