Thursday, September 7, 2017

Oversharing

I am a big ol' Jen Hatmaker fan girl.  I love that her message is love.  Guess who else talked about love?


Anywhoo....Jen has a new podcast called For the Love.  The first series was about friendship - For the Love of Girlfriends.  Jen talked to her girlfriends about having girlfriends.

The second series is called For the Love of Moxie (Jen's new book is Of Mess and Moxie).  Episode 2 features Jen's conversation with Brene Brown.  Brene Brown is a shame researcher and author.  Her books are gold.  Gold, I tell ya!! So the two of them together is priceless.

The thing that really stuck with me was a portion of the conversation about oversharing.  Brene says this:  "I never share a story, that when my healing from that story, depends on an audience reaction."

She also says: "I will not take my children's stories from them, or leave such a defining mark on them that they will never be able to get out from underneath them."

Well then there now...

I have worried about this. Am I sharing too much of B's life here? And what's my point for sharing?

I will tell you this, I don't tell you everything.  And I don't show you everything.  Somethings I outright sugar coat.  When I say meltdown that can mean anything from screaming to slapping me.  But I don't want B to grow up and read about his most intimate moments on his momma's website.  I don't post mid-meltdown pictures for the same reason.  Would you want your worst day broadcast for the world to see? 

My point for sharing usually falls into 1 of 2 categories: make you laugh or teach you something.  Or both.  Having an autistic kid isn't always fun and games but it's not all darkness and mourning.  I love my life and I want to share it with you without doing damage to my family.  

Here's the transcript of Jen's Brene Brown episode.

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